When two people build a life together, they encounter questions that touch the very core of human existence. What does it mean to truly connect with another person while remaining yourself? Who am I in relation to you? What meaning do we create together? How do we maintain our individuality while building a shared life? How do you create shared meaning while honouring individual dreams? What happens when the initial excitement fades, and you're faced with the reality of choosing each other day after day?

Existential couples therapy addresses these questions by looking beyond superficial conflicts to explore the deeper dimensions of your relationship. Rather than focusing solely on communication techniques or problem-solving strategies, this approach helps you discover what truly matters in your life together.

Difficult dilemmas are part of the human experience. In existential psychotherapy, we approach these dilemmas not by searching for the “right” answer, but by helping individuals uncover what they are prepared to lose. Every choice comes with a cost — a letting go of something else. Rather than becoming stuck in anxiety over what’s correct, existential therapy invites a deeper, more grounded question: What can I live with letting go of?

ADHD can have a profound impact on romantic relationships, affecting communication, daily functioning, and emotional dynamics. When one or both partners have ADHD, misunderstandings can easily arise. Forgetfulness, procrastination, and avoidance can sometimes be misinterpreted as a lack of care, when in reality, they are symptoms of ADHD-related executive dysfunction. Learning to depersonalise these behaviours and develop mutual understanding is crucial for maintaining a healthy and supportive relationship.

The interactions between these family roles create a complex and often toxic environment. The golden child and the scapegoat may find themselves in direct conflict, with the golden child siding with the narcissistic parent and reinforcing their judgments of the scapegoat. Meanwhile, the enabling parent may attempt to mediate but ultimately fails to challenge the narcissistic parent's control.

These dynamics leave everyone feeling emotionally strained.

Inauthenticity can show up in various ways. For instance, someone might pursue a career to meet parental expectations or societal standards, even if it doesn’t align with their passions. Others may suppress their personal beliefs or stay in unfulfilling relationships out of fear of judgment or loneliness. Many people adopt behaviors or lifestyles that feel disconnected from their true selves, neglect personal aspirations due to fear of failure, or prioritize material achievements as substitutes for genuine fulfillment. These patterns are often driven by a reluctance to face and confront difficult existential truths—such as

Existential psychotherapy emerged from existential philosophy, aiming to apply its concepts to practical therapeutic work. In essence, it is a form of applied philosophy. Existential psychotherapists use philosophical ideas to help clients address the big questions of life and find answers that are meaningful and relevant to them.

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These are questions that all of us, at certain points in our lives, have grappled with—questions that can leave us feeling stuck, anxious, depressed, or stagnant. The journey to finding answers is deeply personal and often challenging.

Understanding and Coping with Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) in ADHD

What is RSD?
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is a common but often overlooked aspect of ADHD. It refers to the intense emotional response some people experience when they perceive rejection, criticism, or failure, even if none is intended. These reactions can be overwhelming, causing feelings of intense shame or failure, often out of proportion to the actual situation.

Single Session Therapy (SST) is a focused, goal-oriented therapeutic approach designed to address a specific issue in just one session. SST is not about cramming everything into a single meeting, nor is it a quick fix. Instead, it’s a structured and intentional session where the therapist and client work collaboratively to achieve a meaningful outcome in a short amount of time.